Mar. 13, 2022
I had seen patients all day and it was dreary , cold, and rainy. My family met in the office parking lot and we started on our nine hour jaunt. I tried to enlist help in the driver's seat but to no avail and so on we went. They all slept most of the way except for occasional bickering . I was exhausted. I was wiped out after about 8 hours as the windshield wipers chanted to me all the way in unison,' You are tired, You are tired! '
It was many years ago ,and yet I do remember it was a Thursday . Our oldest son Joshua needed to go up to Dubuque University to look into the possibility of playing basketball for them. He wanted to study aviation ,and we were told they had a great flight program.
We were an hour or so shy of our destination and for me it was game over. I secured a room and my brain was Jell-O. I had asked another earlier about my route up to Dubuque. I wanted to confirm as well as ask another question .
I thanked him for his help and started to turn away. I forgot the main reason that had walked down to the main office.
I staggered down to the front office. I look haggard and worn. I could barely keep my eyes open. At the front desk was a slim young man that looked like he could be on the cover of GQ magazine. After saying hello I asked him to confirm my plans and route the next morning. All I had to do was drive around the Cracker Barrell restaurant and head 60 miles straight north on highway 60. No way! Even I couldn't screw that up!
I told him I had another question and he crouched and held up as if hold a catcher's mitt . He told me he was ready. I asked him if he could see the clock on the wall. Now I would like to think of myself as a wordsmith .This was not my best moment. To this day, I wish I had a copy of this conversation on video. I told him it said it was 7 minutes till tomorrow and he smiled and told me once again I was spot on. I asked what time is it up there in Dubuque right now. He told me it was the same time up there as well as all of Iowa. He smiled as he answered what was I am sure in his mind a silly question. I thanked him again and went out the door and off to see if I could find our room all by myself. I apologize to all the other residents of my beloved home state of Indiana. I left him I feel with the impression that all Hoosiers are like Forrest Gump.
I had shared this story many times in the office with patients. I think by doing so it reminds me to be a little more open to the fact that sometimes a silly question is not at all but they know in reality much more about the subject than we do and are even aware.
I wish I had the time and energy to explain that I am from a place where about about 15 miles away is a different time zone, even though it is the same state. He would be surprised to hear and learn of this. He might even at first question this knowing that this could indeed cause a state of confusion. Maybe he would google and find my question was not so silly once he knew where I was coming from.
I feel I am a much better doctor than I was years ago. I have had cataracts and cataract surgery in both eyes. Before I was taught about them from books , lectures, and articles. They are no match as to trying to look through them and laying on an operating table looking up and into the various colored lights as they cut on your precious eyes. I can now easily answer from my own journey and what at one time would have threw me for a loop, now makes perfect sense.
It will shield you from a state of confusion or maybe now a country of confusion. It will keep you from being a basket case and you will be able to dispense more grace not because of what you know but because of who you know.
Life has many lessons ahead for all of us that we cannot learn any other way. We all have a long way to go and it is much later than you think. I want you to read you Bible and let God share with your stories and lessons that will help you on your journey as is its purpose.
My God , in you and you alone we trust. Please love and help others through us. Amen
Everything's got a moral, if only you can find it.
Lewis Carroll
Trust one who has gone through it.
Virgil
He who knows best knows how little he knows.
Thomas Jefferson
Judge people by their questions rather than by their answers.
Voltaire
There are places you are better off not visiting. There are people you should not be alone with. There are circumstances you need to avoid. In your heart , you will know what they are. If you are wise, you will pay attention.!
Bob Barnes
IT ALL ADDS UP
Often during the course of an eye exam, I ask patients if they like to read. Some like me love to read.
Others say they hate reading and never read. I often think to myself if we kept track of every text we send
or receive, it would surprise us. Now let's factor in every email we send or receive, and I would bet we all read the equivalate of 3-4 books a month!
Several years ago, I was with a young college student who was on her spring break. She was glad to be home
for a week and yet she had some work to do that week as she preparing for finals on her return. I goofed and
accidently invented a new praise. I meant to ask if she enjoyed pleasure reading. I said, 'do you enjoy pressure
reading?' We both chucked at my error.
Truth is, I have thought about that conversation many times. I do like to read for pleasure. I have learned many
things over the course of my life from borrowing the brains of others. I am hopeful that others may have gained insight from my words and shared experiences.
I feel all of us have some forms of pressure reading. It may not be college finals, but perhaps an instruction manual
to put a child's bike of toy together. That may not be our cup of tea, but we have to many times because it is required for work. I am not forced to read the eye related magazines that come to my house. I take the time to read them as to allow me to stay up and current with anything from new medicines to new trends in the eye related field.
Can I be so bold to ask you a question? Why are you reading my words right now? It is surly not pressure reading!
I am surprised and honored if anybody enjoys my feeble efforts to help fellow sojourners in this thing called life.
There is a book that is above all books called the bible. It was written long ago by many men with God's hand
upon them to help you. If you just, try to read it, God will change you as you do. Put a little pressure on yourself
to pick it up and put your phone down. You will learn about yourself and how much God cares for you. It will
make you a better parent, spouse, employee and friend. The pressure will soon turn to pleasure, and it will you more than anything in this word you can gaze upon. It leaves all earthly knowledge behind in the dust. things you wonder about will start to add up. You will smile as you realize the heap has led to a leap .... of faith.
If you only keep adding little by little, it will soon become a great heap.
Hesiod